I have always been more about comfort when it comes to style, but lately, I have really wished that I could afford a personal stylist.
I have said it before and I will say it again, I am 27 years old and my husband is 44. I have always looked young for my age, apparently, but it is one thing to be carded at the casino or back when I was drinking at a bar - but for random people to assume my husband is my father, well, then it becomes a problem.
I need to find a way to dress older, or else the next person that assumes this is going to get a nice smack in the face.
What brought this on today? One of our neighbours had mentioned to Barry about the tree at the side of our front porch, Barry mentioned he was going to be taking it down - it's more of an annoying bush that's starting to protrude onto the porch. So, the neighbour kindly offers to come over with a chainsaw and cut it down for us. I have never seen this neighbor or spoke to him so today when Barry was gone and the doorbell rang, I answered it. This man says, "Oh, I'm supposed to cut that tree down over there for your, uh, father, I guess.." I'm too taken back to say anything, plus I had just woken up and was in my pretty pink housecoat, so I nod and said oh, yeah... And he says, "Yeah, I'll only be about 10 minutes if that's okay." I nod and say thanks, and close the door.
So embarrassing!
Another time that sticks out is last New Year's Eve. Neither one of us drink, so we have a tradition to head to the casino for a few hours. We made our way back home at around 2:30am and ran into a ride program. The police officer looks in at us (me in the passenger seat, Barry driving) and says to him, "Picking up the kids from the bar?" And I blurted out, "What? Are you kidding me?" Barry spoke up and just said 'No, actually, we are just coming back from the casino." And we were on our way, but it still pisses me off to this day.
I can see how people make the mistake - I do look younger then I actually am, which really doesn't help the 17 year age difference between us, but still, do NOT assume things about people because usually, you will be wrong.
So, like I said, I want to start dressing older. Any tips or ideas on what I can do? As much as I love fashion, my own personal fashion is pretty relaxed and comfortable, and I have no idea on what will or won't work for me.
Where are your favourite places to shop for clothes?
I can see why you get mad at people sometimes . I would too! I actually need advice too. I want to dress older. I am 22 years old and people still think I am 16. So if you get any advice on how to dress older please tell me: )
ReplyDeleteMy parents are 14 years apart, plus she's red head pale irish and he's indian, so no one assumed they were together. They also always thought my dad stole me! (I'm adopted) People are so nosy, mostly without meaning to be but still. Think before you speak.
ReplyDeleteI'll be 29 in a few weeks and the transition in clothes shopping has been a huge undertaking. I've had to give up places like Forever 21 and stick with the Loft (my favorite), NY&Co., Banana Republic, Venus and occasionally Maurices (which is young, but they have good staples)
I totally get this! My boyfriend is 20 years older then me. What pisses me off most is that my bf smokes, so we go to the smoke line in Walmart alot. Instead of asking for his ID they ask for mine and put it my Bday. I DON"T SMOKE. Arggg.
ReplyDeleteI realized that I get the "father" comment when he has a beard. O also learned to think when picking out clothes "Would a 17 year old wear this? OR a 12 year old?" If possible then I put it back. If you still have clothes from when you were younger then it's probably time to get rid of them.
BUT you'll still get it no matter what, dressing older just helps. I am glad to met someone that has an older man too. =]
ahh so crazy that people just make assumptions! though i've also had the opposite, where people thought my dad was my date (and he is about 34 years older than me), so it's probably just best for people to not make assumptions ha. as for dressing older, maybe when you're going out stick with darker colors instead of pastels/brights. though i love color, i think black/darker colors can look more sophisticated, especially in the evening.
ReplyDelete-- jackie @ jade and oak